A Bartender's Guide to Measuring Up in your Relationships

Archive for November, 2014

No Holidays Off


Ask anyone in the service industry and they’ll tell you, “We don’t get holidays off.” If anything, we go harder because everyone else is off and trying to let loose. It’s an unconventional lifestyle, not for the faint of heart or selfish types. Bartender’s, servers, cashiers, and such are responsible for making sure you feel thankful and rewarded for choosing to spend your free time with us among your infinite other choices.
In that regard, the service industry is not unlike a committed relationship. With a commitment, there are no holidays. You can decide you’re “not feeling it today.” In fact, when things get hectic is the exact time when you have to put in more effort than usual because it’s when you’re needed, wanted, desired the most. Those are the times when you’re challenged to do your best, and show you’re worthy of the honor of being your honey’s top choice. You may not get holidays off, but the results from putting in the overtime is the reward.


The Bartender’s Guide to Dating


     The Bartender knows best! Because the cheapest therapy you can find is often the person behind the bar at your favorite watering hole. The grown up “Lucy-with-her-lemonade-stand-therapy—though, more Long Islands than lemonade,—when it comes to relationships, the bartender has just about heard it all.
     With customers’ stories, and anecdotes from the bar world, The Barometer: A Bartender’s Guide to Measuring Up in your Relationships serves up a healthy dose of common sense and shots of honesty, with advice on the side, from the bartender’s point of view.
     There may be variables out of your control that can contribute to the end of a relationship; but there are also those ways you can cause the hurt and sabotage yourself. It’s those unintentional—and sometimes intentional—ways you cause your own harm. The Barometer is a “how-not-to” guide that trains you to refocus attention—and intention.
    Like that voice in the back of your head saying, “Don’t do it!” The Barometer is a no-holds-barred conversation with a good friend—or your favorite bartender!
The Barometer, the book that inspired this blog, is now available for purchase, both in paperback and ebook format.