A Bartender's Guide to Measuring Up in your Relationships

Archive for December, 2013

Loyal Customers

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     “Regular customers are usually where a bartender make their money. Those customers are loyal as long as you continue to take care of their needs. And you’ll continue to do so because you appreciate their loyalty. Bartenders know, that repeat business is where the money is.
I may have heard some of their boring stories ten times over, and the predictability at times can be routine, but I don’t take for granted the devotion loyal customers show me. And even when I’m tending to a new customer, though the newness may be refreshing, I’m sure to shoot a wink or a smile to those who have stuck with me.
     Its really easy to take for granted that your mate is there, meaning, available. You get used to him/her being around so you forget to focus on them as a separate part of your world that deserves a little attention different from the rest of your obligations.”
     You let the woes of the world weigh you down, so much so, that you forget, at one time, your relationship was your retreat from all of that, and instead bring that drama to the one who melts the stress away.
     While its ok to vent, especially to someone you trust and feel close to, make sure you’re not taking for granted that you have someone who’ll listen. Assuming your relationship isn’t adding to your stress, don’t forget the wink and smile to your loyal customer.

-An excerpt from The Barometer: A Bartender’s Guide to Measuring Up In Your Relationships

Straight with No Chaser

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     Some cocktails are easier to make than others. While there are those drinks that are difficult to mess up and will taste good regardless, with minimal fuss–like a long island iced tea–there are others more delicate. Too much of one thing or not enough of another and the whole drink is ruined–dry martinis are that way. Some drinks require precision measurements, preparation, layering, and the right mix of spirits. These cocktails are crafted, given much attention, and tasted often for accuracy. Even still, people come with specifications a bartender can’t anticipate. So the bartender could have done everything appropriately and still disappoint.
     Relationships come with the same variations. Different people need different things. While some may only need minimal fuss, and can be happy with seeing their significant other a few days a week, others need constant attention, a delicate touch, and much more patience. 
     Problems arise when a “straight with no chaser” gets involved with a “Bloody Mary,” or a “Perfect Manhattan” with a “Mojito.” In either case they’re both too high-maintenance to be able to focus on what the other one needs. That isn’t to say opposites don’t attract and can’t work. But you have to find a balance between an opposite that can compliment what you lack, or recognize if they’re someone who’s too different to understand your point of view.

Blending A Perfect Balance

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     Ask any bartender and they’ll tell you, bartenders hate making blended drinks. They’re messy, loud, and five other drinks could’ve been made in the time it took to do that one. And, most of the time, the tip does not begin to compensate for the effort. That being said, blended drinks are par for the course; they don’t make or break a night. And of course, we make them with a smile on our faces. The customer should never feel like he/she is bothering you. 

     Blended drinks alone are not reason enough to quit bartending. If ever there was a bartender who hated blended drinks enough to resign from the profession, a pina colada or strawberry daiquiri is the least of that bartender’s worries.

     In all things in life, and particularly in love, you’re gonna have circumstances you’re no so fond of, but they shouldn’t be deal-breakers. Everyone comes with quirks, nuances, and less-than-desirable qualities. But you picked that person for a reason; for the joy they bring, and the reward that is having him/her in your life. If one characteristic of their many is irritating enough to make you no longer want to be involved, the burden is yours not theirs.

We can’t avoid the strawberry daiquiris of life and love, so why not find a way to blend a perfect balance.